How to Stop Imposter Syndrome So You Can Succeed

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When was the last time you felt out of your depth?

How did you cope?

We live in a complex and fast-moving world. And, with the ever changing contexts we find ourselves in, the reality is there'll always be occasions when we experience feelings of inadequacy.

You may find yourself being asked to take on a new role, lead on a project, or share your learning or experience with others.

And at times, these opportunities may give rise to insecurities.

With these insecurities can come the onset of a well known phenomenon called imposter syndrome; a feeling of not being good enough.

And, despite knowing you're not the finished article, these feelings can have a crippling effect.

Some of my clients speak of experiencing imposter syndrome.

They express having doubts about their capabilities and feeling concerns about second guessing themselves.

I take the opportunity to acknowledge their doubts and concerns, before inviting them to consider the reality of their beliefs.

Typically, what then follows is an awareness that the occasional crisis of confidence is normal for everybody.

You may have already experienced imposter syndrome yourself; maybe not.

Either way, it will inevitably be triggered at some point, whether that be in your personal or professional life.

Being prepared for the moment you face it is key to handling it well.

So here are three approaches to keep in mind for when it arrives at your doorstep:

1. Assess your self-talk

The way you talk to yourself is important.

Studies show where healthy self-talk can help with decision making, monitoring progress towards a task or goal, and curbing impulses (McCarthy-Jones and Fernyhough, 2014).

When faced with imposter syndrome, start by asking yourself if things are as bad as they seem.

Chances are, replacing exaggerated thoughts with more moderate ones, will help you to feel more grounded.

2. Act 'confident'

There's something quite powerful about acting 'as if'.

Though it may seem strange, in carrying yourself as if you're confident, you're more likely to feel confident.

Some feel uncomfortable with the phrase, 'fake it till you make it', myself included!

However, there's something to be said about the concept of modifying your behaviour first, and allowing your feelings to follow.

3. Accept mistakes for what they are

The idea of an all rounded, omnipotent leader is fake. He or she does not exist.

And this is good news, as it can help reduce the likelihood of placing unrealistically high expectations on yourself.

Yes you want to do well, as do all effective leaders and high achievers.

However, recognising and accepting mistakes as opportunities to reflect, learn and try again, will help you to keep a balanced perspective of yourself.

Summary

Imposter syndrome is real and has the potential to impact the most prolific of high achievers.

Sometimes triggered by an insecurity, it has the potential to stop you in your tracks and prevent you from contributing to the world.

The level of effect it has will depend firstly on whether you face it head on.

From then on, your self-talk, behavioral choices, and willingness to embrace the learning cycle, will determine the extent of its impact on your success.

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