Do you ever feel like you’re a square peg trying to fit into a round hole?
If you have, then you’ll know that living from a place of incongruence is exhausting and that trying to be something you’re not takes it out of you. It sucks you dry and leaves you feeling drained and depleted.
So give your time and focus to what you enjoy; your talents, your skills, and what you’re best at. This begins with thinking about what they are. For a start you could try answering the following questions:
- What activities energise you?
- When was the last time you felt truly alive and enjoyed what you were doing?
- What do you enjoy spending your time on?
- What do others compliment you on?
- What comes naturally to you?
- What do you spend lots of time thinking about?
- Where does your inspiration come from?
- Who do you enjoy spending time with?
Answering the above questions will give you an idea of what you enjoy and are good at. And with that, begin to give yourself to what fits your unique shape — you know, that cross section where your passions meet your skills. Commit to finding who you are and being it, rather than trying to fit into someone else’s shoes and not being at peace with yourself.
When you’re living out of that space, you’ll be functioning from a place of congruence. And it’s the best place to be, as you’ll make decisions based on what your heart tells you and your authentic self will shine through. Your every action will be value driven rather than being determined by your fears and doubts, and you’ll be freed from any unhealthy expectations that don’t align with who you are.
Being and remaining true to who you are in every context, situation, and environment will result in greater contentment during times of challenge and increased joy in moments of success.
Any efforts to be something that you’re not will only lead to frustration and stress, so be intentional about considering, finding, and wearing what fits you. Walking for even a moment in someone else’s shoes is a waste of the person you are. So don’t waste your life trying to be someone you’re not.
Considering this, where might you need to take off someone else’s shoes and wear your own?
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