How good would it be if you knew how to improve and become better at anything and everything you did?
Just as you are, I’m committed to getting better at what I do. So with each passing day I find myself asking questions like:
- How am I aligned to what I believe is my life purpose?
- Where can I make more impact in the lives of others?
- What do I need to do to keep growing and improving?
Whether it’s being a good husband and dad, bettering my creativity, developing the effectiveness of my leadership, or continuing to create my ideal lifestyle, I’m intentional about making improvements towards reaching my goals.
Now, its not always the case that I’m successful in what I want to achieve, and when this happens I have to take stock of what I either have or haven’t done that resulted in the outcome I got.
One thing that has always improved my performance
But there’s one thing that’s always raised my game, improved my performance, and helped me to get better in everything and anything I’ve ever worked to improve.
When applied, this one principle is the only thing that’s always given results and has been neither complicated or expensive. In my view its actually proven to be the simplest way to be more successful at anything.
And what’s great is that with a little thought and effort, you too can apply it. You won’t have to attend any conferences, training courses, or even purchase lots of eBooks.
All you’ll need is clarity on what’s most important to you and a little investment of your time and energy. Yes, that’s all. If you set aside some time to get clear on what you want, you can improve in anything when you apply this one principle.
And it’s simply this…
Be around people who are better than you at what you want to improve
When asked about mentoring influences in an interview with The Great Discontent, Designer and Illustrator, Mikey Burton spoke about having competition from those he most associated with, and how it challenged him to continually improve.
Jim Rohn says,
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
What this basically means is that the company you keep will determine the level of success you experience in the areas of life that are most important to you. You can improve by association.
To be a better parent, watch and learn from those who parent the way you’d like to. If you want to be a better leader, spend time around effective leaders. To grow in your faith, commit to being around those passionate about living out their faith.
And if you want a vibrant and successful marriage, guess what? Get time with couples who not only look like they’re in love, but who actually love each other and display the kinds of marital characteristics you most admire.
Your personal and professional development will be shaped and influenced by those you spend most of your time with; those you’re in relationship with. So to win, simply spend time with successful people.
Your success will depend on some conditions
However, to benefit most from this simple tip for getting better at what you do, you’ll also need to understand the importance of applying the following:
- You must be intentional. It will take effort on your part to firstly identify the areas of your life that are most important to you and that you want to develop. This is key to deciding who you will want to spend time with.
- You must be humble. It will take understanding that you don’t have all of the answers, and being willing to acknowledge the experience and gifts of those who are ahead of you in the areas that you want to develop.
- You must be teachable. It will take continuing to see yourself as a learner and being willing to take on board and apply the wisdom of those who you’ll be learning from.
- You must be grateful. It will take showing appreciation to those who are helping and mentoring you, and communicating the significance of their contribution in your efforts to improve and succeed.
- You must be you. It will take remembering that you’re designed uniquely and that your contribution will look and sound different to those you’re learning from. Apply principles, don’t be a clone.
So there you have it. It really couldn’t be more simple.
To get better at anything in life and increase the chances of success in everything you do, spend time with people who are better than you at the things you want to improve in your own life.
When you start to invest time with people who are ahead of you, and you remember the five conditions I mentioned above, you’ll grow from strength to strength in reaching your desired goals.
You’ll also become better than you ever dreamed possible at the things you most value and have long observed others doing so well. The level of your improvement then, is dependent on those you give most time to.
Over to you
Who do you need to start spending more time with?