When facing a crisis how do you spend your energy, on worrying or finding ways to solve the problem?
Despite the ineffectual nature of worrying, we can often give an imbalanced proportion of our time and energy to it — this isn’t good.
Worrying is a waste of time
Over years I’ve learnt that giving emotional and mental energy to things outside of my control is a waste of time. When faced with a difficulty or problem, my default was too often to start worrying and become overly anxious.
This always proved pointless.
“Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.” Winston Churchill
There’s insight in Winston Churchill’s observation. For if we gave as much time to creative thinking as we did to worrying, we’d have more plans to create change.
Worrying doesn’t change your situation!
And sages of all generations have taken wisdom from the Bible to reinforce the notion that worrying fails to bring about positive outcomes.
Knowing this, why do we still do it? Habit maybe.
Worrying about people’s opinions is a waste of time
If you considered the things you have control over, you’d not be surprised to discover that the list is short. In relation to your work or desired future, you’ve got little control over a number of things.
Think about it. You’re powerless to determine whether your creative efforts, proposals, or ideas — regardless of how good — will be liked by others.
Opinion and likability is objective. Some will love them, some will hate them. Few may value them, and many may appreciate them. It’s all relative, and more importantly, out of your control.
So rather than allowing this to be a cause of unnecessary stress, use this reality to help fine tune your priorities.
Instead of worrying about what you can’t control, give your best energy to where you have the most influence — your attitude, disciplines, willingness to accept responsibility for mistakes, and your personal growth.
Focusing your energy into these areas will significantly impact your long-term chances of success.
Besides these, prioritise other things of significant value that only you can do.
For example, being the best mother to your child, a faithful husband to your wife, a loving wife to your husband, a studious learner for your tutors, or a conscientious employee for your boss.
Only you can do these things — day in, day out — and as a result, influence positive outcomes.
Why exert energy on worrying?
Exerting energy on things outside of your control doesn’t add up. Focus rather on continuing to do what you do. And above all, enjoy doing it.
Whether you’re a doctor, teacher, parent, or creative of any type, simply do what you need to do — give your gift, use your talents, and make your contribution.
For it’s your gift that the world needs, as there are those who’ll be influenced by your willingness to share.
So keep giving, and stop worrying about what you can’t control.
Question: What might you need to stop worrying about? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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