I’ve done it, and I’m sure you have too. Blaming others is too easy. “They were at fault. It wasn’t me. Had they done better!” We point the finger.
More often than I’d like to admit have I been guilty of pointing the finger of blame at others for my situation.
After all, being the fallible creatures that they are, to varying degrees, those who have influenced and had authority over me will have undoubtedly failed me in some way.
But listen to this…
“Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.” Joseph Campbell
When read aloud that has a slight sting to it.
Because in the most part its true – much of the circumstances I’ve found myself in have been of my own making – I’ve been to blame.
What about you?
Truth is, parents, teachers, bosses, and older siblings alike, will have all played a role in helping to develop your insecurities and idiosyncrasies.
And this being true, you could by all means continue to adorn a victim t-shirt. Come on, it’s fair to say you’ve earned it!
However, to accept responsibility for how you respond to your circumstances is more of a challenge, and requires courage.
For in accepting responsibility, you determine to relinquish the benefits of playing the victim, and dispose of the caveat that releases you from having to take charge of the consequences of your chosen actions.
Regain your power
In accepting responsibility you take life by the scruff of the neck, choosing instead to shape your future rather than have it be shaped by others.
You also determine to shift the balance of power over your circumstances.
And in taking ownership of your choices and firmly grasping the steering wheel of your life, you resolve also to blame others no longer.
Have you, or anyone you know, ever worn the victim t-shirt?
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