We all face problems — sadly, sometimes more than we’d like. Family, work, and life in general, each have a tendency to throw them our way.
I admit, I’m not always good at dealing with life’s problems. And being honest, my threshold for difficulty isn’t always as high as I’d like. When problems arrive, at times, coping with them is the last thing I want to do.
Like recently, upon facing the reality of our newly purchased Renault being diagnosed by a specialist dealer as being, “not roadworthy”, I wanted to cry. As a family of six (plus one dog), this wasn’t news I wanted to hear. It presented two main problems.
Firstly, the huge inconvenience to family commitments and routines proved to be much cause of frustration. Secondly, having spent thousands to purchase it, the financial hit — repairs and a replacement vehicle — doesn’t bear thinking about.
Whether we like them or not, problems need to be addressed. So, in light of the problems we faced with our vehicle, here are five things you can do to address life’s little hiccups, that are sure to give results.
#1. Be honest about your problems
Seeing your problems for what they are is an essential first step in resolving them. When faced with a difficult situation, you’ll gain nothing by burying your head in the sand — it won’t help!
Objective observation of your situation, and clear definition of what your problems are, will better prepare you to face them.
#2. Don’t complain about your problems
Having gained clarity about the problems you’re facing, the next thing is to avoid the temptation to complain. Though complaining may appear cathartic in the short-term, the stark reality is that whining brings no long-term relief.
Complaining will not cause your problems to fritter away. It simply compounds them, and in the process, causes you to become fatigued. That said, constructive complaints may be required to resolve your problems.
#3. Look for solutions to your problems
Having avoided the enticing nature of complaining, seeking solutions to your problems is the proactive — and right — response. This will most likely involve doing some research, gathering the opinions of those you know and trust, and asking for help and expert advice.
I once read that its important to,
“Focus 90% of your time on solutions, and only 10% of your time on problems.”
Attaining possible solutions will give you a blueprint from which to determine any number of plans of action. This will also help relieve any anxiety associated with your problems, as you’ll feel a greater sense of control.
#4. Decide what to do about your problems
With possible solutions in hand, you’re now able to identify what plans will best resolve your problems. The key here is to set goals that are ethical and achievable.
Be mindful too, that with any number of options at your disposal, it’s possible to get waylaid with choice. It’s at this point that you need to be decisive; not deterred by fear or procrastination.
#5. Commit to dealing with your problems
Now you’ve come this far, it’s clear that you’re motivated to address your problems and move on. This is good. Your willingness to bite the bullet and take action is what separates you from those who do, and those who want to do.
A commitment to addressing your problems is guaranteed to move you towards getting the results you want — in any situation.
Truth is, your problems may not be resolved
With all problems there’ll be factors outside of your control. What does this mean?
It means that although taking the previous steps will place you in a strong position, despite your best plans and efforts, there’s no guarantee that your problems will be resolved as you’d desire. And you’ll need to prepare yourself for this possibility.
If this is true, the challenge for you is having the strength of character to continue doing what is right, despite not getting the outcome you hoped for.
Over to you…
What approach do you take to facing problems? How would you advise someone facing a challenging situation? Leave your thoughts in the comments!
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